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Archive for June, 2009
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June 30th, 2009
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June 29th, 2009
Five Practical Rules For Experimentation
June 29th, 2009
Once you’ve decided to Be the Change in your life, you no longer will be satisfied with not changing. One of the best ways to change is to experiment with new things, new ideas, new habits, new ways, new friends, new job, etc. Think about how good you feel when you wear new clothing. Your whole life should be that enjoyable.
Here are some practical rules for experimentation – doing the doing – becoming the proof you seek through the results you make happen.
1. Commit to Doing the Doing. If you promise yourself that you will, then follow through on your own promise and do it. Change cannot happen without commitment. Once you have decided to make the commitment, you’ll slide right into a habit of looking for change and you will slide right out of the habit of remaining the same. Experimentation is the driving source of innovation. Would you like to be the innovator or creator of a new life for you? Would you like to experiment with becoming more happy, more healthy or more wealthy? Experimentation is how scientists discover new “stuff.” Why not use their Scientific Method ourselves?
2. Make a Plan. Write it down. Only write the plan for one day. After you’ve mastered a day, then do a week. Then do a month’s plan. Writing it down is a form of commitment. Once you are habitually planning, allow yourself a few day’s retreat from your normal workaday world and go off to create a Master Plan – one that embodies your Big Dream. The Big Dream that you’ve been pushing on the back burner. Bring it forward and write down the details of it in living color. Remember, you’ve decided to Be the Change so why not implement that Master Plan?
3. Get Someone to Support You. You don’t have to accomplish these changes alone. This is the work of a Change Coach. Or, you could get a friend who has the same ideals as you do. Note: don’t let their lack of performance weaken your resolve though. You’ll want to pick a friend who has the same level of gumption and accomplishment as you do. The internet has many communities sorted by age or interest. Find one that works for you and get in there and permit yourself to be know.
4. Re-Assess frequently. I knew of a company in California that reviewed and revised their Business Plan twice a year. They were a highly successful company. We could follow their example. Are you staying on track? What keeps you from taking the steps you created yourself? Can you get past the blockages? Could you reach further? If not, why not? Write down a new plan.
5. Re-Commit and begin the Doing again. Frequently, it’s wise to pause in our lives and take inventory of where we are. Have an Applaud Yourself Celebration about all that you’ve accomplished to date. The conscious recognition of our accomplishments is a wonderful way to remain committed and give ourselves a fresh start. Recommitment and renewal go hand in hand.
When you’ve decided in your life to Be the Change, you’ll become an experimenter. It takes courage to experiment. It takes persistence to follow through with completing the experiment. It takes wisdom for choosing the steps you want to commit to, and it takes self love to give your self the give of Being the Change you want to see in you life.
My Latest Newspaper Article
June 24th, 2009
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June 24th, 2009
Feelings And How They Happen…Part 2
June 21st, 2009
When the process of thinking begins, your mind wants something. It could be that sexy pair of new red shoes you saw in the store. It could be some hot new car. Your mind always wants something. Its intrinsic nature is to desire. So, it desires something.
The very next thing your wonderful, causative mind does is to begin to think about what it desires. If it’s those shoes, you begin to think about which outfits they’d look great with; whether you have the right stockings to wear with them; if your legs will get tired because the heels are so high, if your husband will notice them. Like that. And if it’s that hot car, you begin to picture the trips you’ll take in it; you can see your friends driving with you; you can feel the sun on your face on a trip; you picture yourself waxing it on the weekends; you can feel the looks of admiration when you pull up to the pump to get gasoline.
The second thing your mind does is begin to think about what it desires. This thinking is also called reasoning. You provide reasons why you can or should have what you desire. If you have a negative tendency going, you might provide reasons why you should not have what you desire. You might be thinking “My husband would be furious with me if I bought those shoes. I better not stir him up.” Or those of you who are car buffs might negatively think “I’ll be so strapped trying to pay for that sweet car. Better not.”
Picture the thinking/reasoning process like a tree.
You start out with your head (like the branches) up in the clouds. You see all the possibilities. They look good from up here.
As you continue in the thinking process, you move down the length of the tree providing all the good (or bad) reasons why you can (or cannot) have your desire.
Way down at the bottom of the thinking process is an event that plops you right into the lap of the third step of the process. Down near the roots of that thought process tree, you make a decision. You decide “Yes I can” or “No I can’t” have what I desired.
We have now arrived at the spot I promised you at the beginning of this article: feelings. That conscious decision you made at the roots of your thought-process tree is actually a feeling of conviction. You are absolutely convinced, due to the thought process you indulged, that you could or could not have your own desire. Your feeling of conviction is the period at the end of the sentence I mentioned before. You might feel joy-filled, exhilarated. Or you might feel sick, or disappointed.
More importantly than how you feel is the fact that you are the one who created the three-part process and filled in the blanks and arrived at that conclusive feeling! And if you don’t like what you concluded, you can go back and re-think it until you get a feeling of conviction that you do like!
Then something wonderful happens. Somehow, someway the thing you desired will appear in your life experience. When you begin to observe this process, the appearance looks like a mere coincidence. Eventually, you come to trust that it is you creating your own desires. Your mind is a Cause Machine.
These words are Truth. They are the Truth that sets you free. Let me summarize the above paragraphs so that you might see this graphically and thus, find it more useful for yourself to create whatever you want in your lives.
FIRST A desire comes up from inside yourself
SECOND You begin to think about the desire and eventually reach a conclusion about whether you can have it or not in your life experience
THIRD A feeling or absolute conviction will actually manifest the desire “physically in your life.
So what is a feeling? It’s the frosting on the cake. It’s the period at the end of the sentence. It’s the result of what you thought to a conclusive state, and it is the only way things can manifest in your life.
Here’s a secret. You control the feelings you experience by controlling what happens in the second position of your mental processing. If you won’t address your mind to thinking about all the necessary details, you cannot come to a conclusion about what you desire. This is why meditation is so highly praised. It’s during the quiet, reflective moments of meditation that you can do the thinking so necessary to manifest a feeling of conclusion, Be the Change, and thus, enjoy your heart’s desire.
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June 16th, 2009
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Feelings and How They Happen…Part 1
June 15th, 2009
We banter the word feelings around blithely. I wonder if any of us has sat down and deliberately looked more deeply into just what feelings means? We learned as children to answer the question “How are you feeling today?” We learned to use the word in our workaday life: “I’m feeling overwhelmed with all this work.” We use it around our home “I don’t feel like cooking dinner tonight, honey. Can we go out to eat?” That word is part and parcel of our everyday life.
Here is an exposé of your mentality – your mind – and how it works. We have to look at the whole picture because feelings are just one small piece of the whole thing. In fact, try to think of feeling as the small period at the end of the sentence. Feelings come at the tail end of the thinking process.
You can think. This means you are a mental being – Mind Itself – because it’s only mind that can think. Imagine that! All these years of thinking and you may not have known the fact that thinking makes you a mental being. This is a critical piece of information. If you are Mind because you can think, then what?
It’s very exciting, dear readers. If you are mind because you can think, then the very next thing to look at is what your thinking causes. Did you know that your thinking causes things? It does. Here are a few examples:
- Thinking sadness produces tears
- Thinking happy makes you shout, jump and fling your arms out
- Thinking sick thoughts makes your stomach ache
In a mental world, where there is your mind thinking, and this thinking causes something as its end product, this would make your Mind Cause Itself. I put those in full capitals because Mind as Cause Itself is crucial. I’d like to remind you that we are trying in this article to discuss feelings and we are making progress. You now have one of the two pieces of data that precedes understanding feeling. You now know that, first and foremost, your Mind is Cause and your mind causes what you think.
Take some time to digest this post and stay tuned for part 2!
~Maria
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June 9th, 2009
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Held Captive By Our Own Mind
June 8th, 2009
I think a lot about helping people Be the Change. I think the biggest surprise to many of them is the invisible workings of their own minds which might be just the one factor they haven’t consciously looked at.
When I was first drawn to this coaching work, I noticed that the way I thought was more uplifting and positive than some others, and that I appeared to be more successful than they were. I began to make the connection that it was thinking that was causing both my success and other’s lack of it. I decided to gain the necessary skills to teach this to people, because I love success and I want everyone to enjoy it.
Be the Change really means to change your mind. Once you accomplish that, everything else seems to fall in place. So how does one change his mind? I think that first it’s wise to observe yourself thinking and make an effort to classify how you think into two categories: positive, providing positive results or negative, providing negative results.
As you evolved through the stages in your one, sweet life, your thinking was also evolving. Initially, you were like a little sponge, absorbing all that came across the unmapped territories of your life. You were not very self-sufficient and had to be cared for. Later, you were read books and saw programs on television, and your fertile mind simply absorbed all ideas that it was presented. You accepted all these ideas as The Truth.
Some of the ideas you viewed as The Truth were not true. They were the opinions of others and while you might not have said something to your presenter, inside of your own mind, you began to think things like this:
When I grow up, I certainly won’t do it that way.
When I have kids of my own, I won’t make them go to bed this early.
I don’t like having to eat all these vegetables. I won’t make my kids do this.
Your mind was doing its early work to become more self-sufficient – to build a broad foundation that you could create and grow your life experience on.
In those early days, you simply processed your experiences mentally without being consciously conscious that you were doing it. It was your nature to process things mentally because fundamentally, you are a mental being. You have a mind because that is the core of your mental beingness.
As you lived and moved and experienced many of the things that your life had to offer, your mind began to create databases and to classify things in order, because your mind loves order. There were databases like these:
Foods I like to eat
Foods I don’t enjoy
People who like me
People whom I don’t like
Everyday experiences that were fun
Everyday experiences to avoid
Favorite Clothing
Sibling behaviors that make me angry
Things that made me feel great about myself
Things to avoid that made me feel bad about myself
You have a lot of database categories inside your mind today. The items in your databases are called ideas. Some ideas you classify as good; some as bad. You are continuously adding to your databases as you live your life. The more years you have of life experiences, the more clearly you can see the classifications inside your own mind. This is why I encourage you to classify how you think into two categories: positive, providing positive results or negative, providing negative results. It’s a healthy beginning.
The work of self-improvement is one of refinement. I like to think of that word as re-fine-ment. To make fine again that which was fine in the beginning. To remove the fog, the heavy covers, and the deep burying so that the light can shine on those ideas and you can Be the Change as you work on your own self-improvement.